Perbedaan “Good Interpersonal Skill” dan Menjilat - Cari Muka
Kesuksesan dan karir, ataupun keberhasilan dalam usaha seseorang memang tergantung banyak sekali faktor. Baik itu faktor “luck”, potensi diri, kedekatan dengan pengambil keputusan, “pergaulan” dan juga “interpersonal skill”. Itu merupakan hal yang lumrah dan merupakan realitas yang terjadi. Tidak bisa dipungkiri. Tapi ada perbedaan yang tipis antara “good interpersonal skill” dengan menjilat, cari muka dan “asal bapak senang”. Kadang fenomena menjilat. cari muka dan “asal bapak senang” ini sering diikuti dengan suka mencari “scape goat”/kambing hitam, budaya cuci tangan, dan membuat diri “looking good” dengan menginjak atau menjelek-jelekan orang lain. Dan bila ada kesuksesan diklaim sebagai hasil sendiri, otherwise akan mencari kambing hitam. Itu juga lumrah terjadi dan banyak sekali orang yang sukses dengan menerapkan hal tersebut. Tidak bisa pula dipungkiri. Interpersonal skill juga sering identik dengan banyak omong, tong kosong, suka lobi sana dan lobi sini, dan biasanya dilakukan kepada orang yang penting, tidak ke semua orang.
So, what we think?
Berikut beberapa definisi “interpersonal skill” :
Interpersonal skills
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
“Interpersonal skills” refers to mental and communicative algorithms applied during social communications and interactions in order to reach certain effects or results. The term “interpersonal skills” is used often in business contexts to refer to the measure of a person’s ability to operate within business organizations through social communication and interactions. Interpersonal skills is how a person relates to one another.
As an illustration, it is generally understood that communicating respect for other people or professionals within the workplace will enable one to reduce conflict and increase participation or assistance in obtaining information or completing tasks. For instance, in order to interrupt someone who is currently preoccupied with a task in order to obtain information needed immediately, it is recommended that a professional utilize a deferential approach with language such as, “Excuse me, are you busy? I have an urgent matter to discuss with you if you have the time at the moment”. This allows the receiving professional to make their own judgement regarding the importance of their current task versus entering into a discussion with their colleague. While it is generally understood that interrupting someone with an “urgent” request will often take priority, allowing the receiver of the message to independently judge the request and agree to further interaction will likely result in a higher quality interaction. Following these kinds of heuristics to achieve better professional results generally results in a professional being ranked as one with ‘Good Interpersonal Skills’. Often these evaluations occur in formal and informal settings. This helps for the effective productivity in the organization without any conflicts.
Definition: Considers and responds appropriately to the needs, feelings, and capabilities of different people in different situations. Is tactful, compassionate and sensitive and treats others with respect. (Source:http://leadership.au.af.mil/blm/27_main_building_interpersonal.htm)
Sedangkan Cari Muka dan Penjilat, didapatkan referensinya di : Budaya Penjajahan..
